If you start observing people, as I mentioned earlier, you would have noticed the differences between individuals, in reacting to the same incident. Now we are trying to find out why the difference exists in the first place!
Each of us receives information through our 5 sensors (Eye, Ear, Nose, Skin, tongue). These 5 are the physical sensors and we have 5 more sensors internally. All these 5 sensors will get the input information and will pass it to our brain through our internal filters. So this filter will alter the information the way it is constructed and pass it to the brain. Brain will process this and the information is reached and will be converted to useful information. The same is the case for internal sensors also. When we imagine or visualize some thing, the input will pass through the same filters to the brain. The brain cannot make out whether the information is real or imaginary.
The process works in this way. For instance take the example of our EYE. Whenever we see something/somebody, we take a screen shot of that and send it to the filter. It is just a raw image. The filters then process the image, with all the similar information available to it from our faith and experiences. Then this will be passed to the brain. The brain then does an image analysis and does face recognition and the necessary operations and convert it to information. This final out put information is the data which our conscious mind will work on. This is the information which we perceive from the image or from the scene. So the final information is the result of the processing happened in the filter and then in the brain which makes use of all the information’s which is stored in our brain or our past experiences or believes.
The change/difference starts there. From childhood we have learned that few things are not correct and few things are correct. When we start responding to those suggestions, or when we start believing each one of those, that will be added as a criteria in our filter. So we start conditioning our brain. Eventually we will create filters in our brain which creates a pattern about each thing/incident/people. So this filter/information works very closely with our brain when we process information (as explained earlier). Whenever we process any information, the information will first pass through the filters. Eventually this information will turn in to our feeling or experience.
From the circumstances one groomed from, can create different filters in them, that eventually turn out to be a differentiator for each individual in perceiving things.
Now it is pretty evident that why different people will have different feeling or experience on the same incident.
The fact is that every individual create this filter according to his/her circumstances and information available. End of the day each one will have a unique filter that will give then a unique experience for each incident.